Three Keys To Good Sex: Self-Esteem, Empathy, Autonomy
OK, it's less than surprising that men who care about their partner's pleasure go to the head of the preferred lovers line; where they'll meet women who are unafraid to tell men what they would like to do. Those are two findings from a study conducted at the Johns Hopkins Bloomberg School of Public Health that involved data from more than 3,200 men and women ages 18 to 26, and defined the quality of sex with three criteria: regularity of orgasm, enjoyment of receiving oral sex, and enjoyment of performing oral sex. HealthDay reports that empathy — defined as the ability to "take [the] other's perspective" — was tied to sexual pleasure for both young men and women. The study found that for women, empathy, autonomy ("having the strength to follow personal convictions") and self-esteem all seemed to contribute to pleasure. Young men reported the highest level of all three types of sexual enjoyment, with nearly nine of 10 saying they achieved orgasm most or all of the time, compared to fewer than half of young women.