In response to readers’ requests, Geezer presents a column published in Woman’s Day, with ten apparently sensible tips on how to talk to your husband about sex. Yes, sex. For men, of course, there is basically one piece of advice: if you talk about it, you might actually do it, so listen up when your wife says there’s something she’d like to talk about. The advice below is offered by Kimberly A. Sharky, a certified sex therapist in Chicago, and Todd Creager, author of The Long, Hot Marriage. For more on each of these tips, read the orginal column in Woman’s Day.
1. Don’t broach the subject in bed.
2. Make a plan to talk.
3. Look back fondly on the good/hot old days.
4. Realize that he doesn’t automatically know how to please you.
5. Be clear about what you want.
6. Don’t berate or belittle.
7. Make “I†statements.
8. Remember your nonverbal expression, too.
9. Have solutions in mind, and be open to his ideas.
10. Remember that this isn’t a one-time conversation.
For more on each of these tips, read the orginal column in Woman’s Day.
OK, this is somewhat helpful. But Girls, let me tell you, if your husband is part Indian and Italian like me, you’ll probably understand that we pay way more attention to what someone does rather than what they say, and we do most of our talking with our hands! That’s a good thing! Just remember you know more about what will get through to your Spouse than anyone. If not, that’s where I would tell you to start. And never forget, it’s the doing that makes the biggest difference, not the talking. Now get in that bedroom and start communicating!!!