Which is more likely to lead to regrettable sex, alcohol or pot? That’s what researchers at New York University wanted to know, so they interviewed 24 adults (12 males and 12 females) who recently used marijuana before sex. An NYU news release reports that the researchers found that, compared to marijuana, alcohol was more commonly associated with social outgoingness and use often facilitated connections with potential sexual partners; however, alcohol was more likely than marijuana to lead to atypical partner choice or post-sex regret. They also found that while some people reported that marijuana made them more selective in choosing a partner, many participants— both male and female—felt that their “standards” for choosing a partner were lowered while under the influence of alcohol. Wait, there’s more: While people often described favorable sexual effects of each drug, both alcohol and marijuana were associated with a variety of negative sexual effects including the very negative effect of sexual dysfunction. For example, marijuana use was linked to vaginal dryness and alcohol was commonly described as increasing the likelihood of impotence among males. Both drugs appear to be potentially associated with increased feelings of self-attractiveness, but possibly more so for alcohol, and participants reported feelings of increased sociability and boldness while consuming alcohol.
Even men, OK some men, realize that most women don’t have an orgasm “with penetration alone” during sex. Now, Dr. Maureen Whelihan, an expert with the American College of Obstetricians and Gynecologists, offers this explanation: anatomy. HealthDay reports that Whelihan has determined that a woman’s ability to orgasm during sex depends on physical development that occurred while she was still in the womb, specifically, the location of her clitoris. If the clitoris developed too far up (away from the vaginal opening), then “traditional lovemaking doesn’t provide enough friction” to do the trick, she says. HealthDay quotes Elisabeth Lloyd, a faculty scholar with the Kinsey Institute for Research in Sex, Gender and Reproduction at Indiana University-Bloomington, reporting that the “magic number” is 2.5 centimeters — slightly less than 1 inch, from the urinary opening. “It’s so strong a correlation that if you give us a woman who has a distance of 3 centimeters, we can very reliably predict she won’t have orgasm with intercourse,” Lloyd said. ” What to do? “There are many ways to have an orgasm where she’s having hers while he’s having his,” says Whelihan. “Couples should not focus on something that will never change anatomically, and instead find ways to allow for some type of clitoral stimulation during penetration.” She suggests using positions where the female is on top, which allows the woman to get more friction against her clitoris, or using a position that allows either the man or the woman to rub the clitoris during sex, either with fingers or a sex toy.
Flibanserin, the first drug approved by the FDA to treat low sexual desire in women, is likely garner low desire for itself. The New York Times reports that researchers who analyzed eight studies involving 5,900 women concluded that treatment with the drug, now marketed as Addyi, resulted in “one-half of an additional sexually satisfying encounter per month.” No, the scientists didn’t say what “one-half” of a sexually satisfying encounter was, or which half they were talking about. The Times reports that the study results were in line with earlier results from clinical trials, which found that once women started taking the drug, they had an average of about one additional satisfying sexual encounter a month, on top of the two to three they were having already.
After years of debate about whether the benefits of testosterone supplements outweigh suspected risks (heart problems and prostate cancer), a large-scale study involving 790 men, all of whom were 65 or older, concludes that yes, testosterone does improve sexual function and mood in older men with low testosterone levels, but it doesn’t do much else. A Yale University news release reports that researchers found that men who received testosterone therapy for one year, versus those on placebo, saw significant improvements in sexual function, including sexual activity, sexual desire, and erectile function. The researchers did not see significant improvements in their walking ability — as measured by an increase of 50 meters or more in their distance walked in 6 minutes, but men enrolled in the vitality trial saw modest benefits in terms of improved mood and fewer depressive symptoms. The researchers also found no increases in adverse side effects a year after testosterone therapy was discontinued.
Supplements claiming to enhance sexual potency- you know what they are- do very little to nothing, and may do harm. That’s the verdict of researchers at Wake Forest Medical Center, who reviewed the scientific evidence for the most common ingredients to determine if they are effective – and most importantly – safe. For some products, a medical center news release reports, the researchers found no scientific evidence to support claims that can positively impact erectile function, libido and sexual performance. And some products that are advertised as being “natural,” contain traces of phosphodiesterase-5-inhibitors (PDE5Is), the same class of medication that includes prescription drugs such as Viagra®, used to treat erectile dysfunction. One study found that 81 percent of tested samples of over-the-counter products purchased in the U.S. and Asia contained PDE5Is. The researchers point out that PDE5Is cannot be legally sold over the counter in this country, and that men who use them without a physician’s supervision run the risk of taking them inappropriately. Patients with advanced heart disease, for example, or who take nitrates, such as nitroglycerin, should not use PDE5Is as it may cause an unsafe drop in blood pressure. Wait, there’s more: men with enlarged prostates who take medications such as Flomax® (tamsulosin), terazosin or doxazosin need to know how to time the dosing of the two medications to avoid causing dizziness and potential falls, which may result in fractures. What to do? Find a good book and relax.
It may not be the most elegant way to show off, but elegance rarely gets in the way a man on the make. Researchers at Cornell University are convinced that men eat more, a lot more, when women are seated at their table. Why? That’s a tough one, but the researchers theorize that men may overeat to highlight their fitness through excessive, risky eating behaviors. They say this type of risky activity is meant to show females how tough and strong a man might be in the face of challenges. OK. Maybe. HealthDay reports on the research, for which scientists secretly observed 105 adults having their lunches at an all-you-can-eat Italian buffet over the course of two weeks. Ready, the envelope please….Men who dined with at least one woman ate 93 percent more pizza and 86 percent more salad than those who ate only with men. And the women? They ate the same amount of foods, whether they dined with women or men.
Yes, we’re talking about sex. We’re also talking about academic research, in this case at the University of Toronto Mississauga, where scientists have determined that sex is good, and more sex is better. But how much is just right? HealthDay reports that the Canadian researchers studied the results from a survey conducted in the United States every other year between 1989 and 2012, focusing on responses from more than 25,000 people, aged 18 to 89. Among other things, participants answered questions about sexual frequency (from not at all to four or more times a week) and their perceptions of their happiness. Ready? The envelope please….The researchers found that couples who had more sex were happier, but well-being leveled off once couples reached a frequency of about once a week. Note well: people who had sex more than once a week were not less happy, they just didn’t get happier with more sex. They just had more sex.
Yes, by deal breakers, we mean behaviors that are non-starters for a serious relationship. The Wall Street Journal reports on a series of recently published studies that found that women have more deal breakers than men, perhaps because are the ones who get pregnant, so they pay big time if they choose a loser partner. And now, the deal breakers: for most people, women and men, the biggest deal breaker was being disheveled or unclean, followed closely by being lazy or too needy. For women, lacking a sense of humor was a big deal breaker, while for men, low sex drive was up there. Women rated bad sex partner as a prime deal breaker, and men said talks too much was high on the list. See a list of deal breakers on this page
We can thank researchers at Chapman University for this advice about what we–both men and women–look for when we look for a mate. The findings –what people find “desirable” and “essential” in a long-term partner –are based on two of the largest national studies of mate preferences ever conducted. Here’s the unsurprising part: Although men have stronger preferences for a ‘good looking’ and ‘slender’ partner, men and women care equally about having a partner who is specifically attractive to them. Wealthier men and people who were more confident in their appearance had stronger preferences for a good-looking partner, and older men and women placed less importance on looks and income traits when seeking a long-term partner. And here, from the Chapman University press room, are some of the findings broken down by category:
Gender Differences: Men and women differed in the percentage indicating:
- it was ‘desirable/essential’ that their potential partner was good-looking (M 92 percent vs. W 84 percent),
- had a slender body (M 80 percent vs. W 58 percent),
- had a steady income (M 74 percent vs. W 97 percent),
- and made/will make a lot of money (M 47 percent vs. W 69 percent).
There were also gender differences in whether it was ‘very important/a must have’ that their partner made at least as much money as they do (M 24 percent vs. W 46 percent) and had a successful career (M 33 percent vs. W 61 percent), but not in whether their partner was physically attractive to them (M 40 percent vs. W 42 percent).
Confidence in Physical Attractiveness: People who reported greater satisfaction with their own appearance did not have stronger preferences for a partner who is physically attractive to them, but they did report stronger preferences for partners who are good looking and slender – this was true for both men and women.
Income: People with higher incomes had stronger preferences for partners who are good looking – and this was true for both men and women. Men with higher incomes showed stronger preferences for women with slender bodies. Wealthier women had stronger preferences for men who had a steady income or made lots of money.
Education: Men with more education had stronger preferences for female partners who are good looking and slender; however for both men and women, education level was not related to preferences for steady income or making a lot of money.
Age: Older people – both men and women – had weaker preferences for a partner they find physically attractive, who make as much money as they do, and who has a successful career.
That’s right, exercise and sex, although not necessarily at the same time. In one recent study reported in the Wall Street Journal, researchers found that men and women who see themselves as equal partners in a relationship are more likely to participate in frequent recreational exercise compared with those in less egalitarian unions. People in relationships they regarded as totally gender-equal were two to three times as likely to engage in daily exercise as those in unions perceived as low in equality. In another study, cited in Science Daily, researchers found that when men assume more child-care duties, splitting them equally with their female partners, heterosexual couples have more satisfaction with their relationships and their sex lives. Wait, there’s more: when men do the majority of the child care, their female partners had the highest overall satisfaction with their sex lives, but men had the lowest overall satisfaction with their sex lives.