Does Equal Marriage = Mediocre Sex? The Times Says Yes She Said Yes

February 7, 2014 12:41 pm 1 comment

It’s good to09cover-master1050-v2 be fair; it’s good to share the burdens of householding, but wait, what exactly is it good for? Not sex. That’s the thesis of a New York Times magazine cover story headlined “Does a More Equal Marriage Mean Less Sex?” According to a study cited in the piece and published last year in The American Sociological Review, the short answer is Yes, She said, Yes. The Times story, written by Los Angeles psychotherapist and family counselor Lori Gottlieb, reports that the study “found that when men did certain kinds of chores around the house, couples had less sex. Specifically, if men did all of what the researchers characterized as feminine chores like folding laundry, cooking or vacuuming — the kinds of things many women say they want their husbands to do — then couples had sex 1.5 fewer times per month than those with husbands who did what were considered masculine chores, like taking out the trash or fixing the car. It wasn’t just the frequency that was affected, either — at least for the wives. The more traditional the division of labor, meaning the greater the husband’s share of masculine chores compared with feminine ones, the greater his wife’s reported sexual satisfaction.” Wait, it gets worse. Gottlieb says that thesis is supported by her own experience and the experience of her family counselor colleagues. She writes: “Many of my colleagues have observed the same thing: No matter how much sink-scrubbing and grocery-shopping the husband does, no matter how well husband and wife communicate with each other, no matter how sensitive they are to each other’s emotions and work schedules, the wife does not find her husband more sexually exciting, even if she feels both closer to and happier with him.” Read more in the New York Times.

1 Comment

  • As much as I HATE to admit it, if my husband did ONLY “masculine” chores, I’d probably feel more sexual towards him ! While I LOVE the fact that he helps me out with the “traditional female chores”, at the same time, this sorta makes me take-him-for-granted, and in turn, the macho aspect of his persona is diminished somewhat – – – and, I guess, I end up feeling less sexually towards him.

Leave a Reply


Recent Posts

  • Fitness Pain The New York Times’ Seven-Minute Workout

    The New York Times’ Seven-Minute Workout

    No, you don’t need exotic machineries; you don’t even need a gym. Here’s what you need: a chair, a wall, and gravity, which is widely available at no cost. Wait, you also need seven minutes. That’s how long it takes, according to New York Times Health columnist Gretchen Reynolds, to stay is shape, but you have to be willing to really put out during those seven minutes. Writing in the Times, Reynolds gives us 12 exercises recommended by Chris Jordan, the […]

    Read more →
  • Eating Well Fitness Pain How To Lose Weight: Stay Cold and Hungry

    How To Lose Weight: Stay Cold and Hungry

    There are some very pleasant ways to keep the weight off–playing tennis or swimming–and then there are two much less pleasant conditions that researchers at Yale believe could do the same thing, by turning white fat (bad) into brown fat (good.) Cold and hunger. Yes, staying cold and hungry could keep us thin. Maybe.  Yale News reports that researchers at the Yale School of Medicine have uncovered a molecular process in the brain known to control eating that transforms white fat into brown […]

    Read more →
  • Attitude Pain Computer Brain Games Are For Losers

    Computer Brain Games Are For Losers

    Brain games, the computer based mental challenges that promise to boost the brain power of older adults, are an excellent way to waste time, but they do almost nothing to make us smarter. That’s the opinion of 69 scholars, including many cognitive psychologists and neuroscientists from around the world. A Stanford University news release reports that the scholars, who have jointly issued a statement expressing their skepticism, say that while people who play computer brain games may improve their scores on […]

    Read more →
  • Pain Exercise Pain Predicts Broader Pain Threshold

    Exercise Pain Predicts Broader Pain Threshold

    How much you hurt after exercise is a good predictor of how much you hurt in life, according to research conducted at the Rutgers School of Dental Medicine, where they know a thing or two about pain. Researchers have known for years that exercise generally helps us tolerate pain. They even have a name for the phenomenon; it’s called “exercise-induced hypoanalgesia” or (EIH), but you knew that. Researchers have also known that some people respond better to the pain-diminishing influence of […]

    Read more →
  • Attitude Pain Worried About Ebola Yet?

    Worried About Ebola Yet?

    Are you worried about Ebola yet? At least one out of four American are, according to a new Harris Poll/HealthDay survey. And the most disturbing thing about the poll is that it was taken more than a week ago, before a nurse in Dallas who had treated an Ebola patient became sick, compelling the CDC to rethink the preparedness of U.S. medical workers to deal with the crisis. HealthDay reports that the online poll of more than 2,000 adults, taken between Oct. […]

    Read more →
  • Pain Repeat Knee Injuries:  What Are The Odds?

    Repeat Knee Injuries: What Are The Odds?

    Ever wonder what the odds are that you’ll re-injure a knee after an ACL repair? Now we know, and the answer is: it depends how old you are.  If you’re in high school, and if you are reading this you are probably not in high school, you’ve got a 17 percent chance of re-injury. That sounds scary until you read the full report from researchers at the University of North Carolina, which claims a 20 percent chance of injury on […]

    Read more →
  • Uncategorized Lifting Weights Improves Your Memory

    Lifting Weights Improves Your Memory

    Can’t remember how many reps you should do of squat thrusts? Do a few more reps and it might come back to you. Slowly. Researchers at Georgia Tech are persuaded that an intense workout of as little as 20 minutes can enhance episodic memory, also known as long-term memory for previous events, by about 10 percent. A Georgia Tech news release admits that the school isn’t the first to find that exercise can improve memory, but their study, which was […]

    Read more →
  • Pain Knee Pain? Forget About Acupuncture

    Knee Pain? Forget About Acupuncture

    Got a knee that won’t stop giving you pain? Don’t waste your time with acupuncture. According to researchers at the University of Melbourne in Australia, the therapy does little for knee pain in the short term and it does nothing in the long term. Science Daily reports that the researchers treated 300 adults with chronic knee pain either with needle acupuncture, laser acupuncture (hitting acupuncture spots with a low-intensity laser beam), sham laser acupuncture, or no treatment at all (the […]

    Read more →